MANILA, Oct. 4, 2015—Conflicts inevitably arise among members of the family, but it is still through their support and loving presence that wounded hearts get healed in the most trying times.
This was the message relayed by Manila Archbishop Luis Antonio Cardinal Tagle in his keynote speech during the World Meeting of Families in Philadelphia on Septr.24.
“All wounds hurt. But wounds are more painful and hurtful when we see our family members suffering…But most hurtful are the wounds inflicted on someone by his or her own family members. The sacredness of the family is wounded by that,” the prelate said.
Tagle noted that the healing presence felt within the family manifests the mystery behind familial ties.
Conflict within families
“Even when homes are hurt by wounds, it is also the home that is the privileged place for comforting and healing wounded hearts. The wounds may come from the family, but it is also the family that becomes the source of comfort and healing,” he said.
Among the common causes of conflict within families is money, causing immense and deep hurt among its members, according to Tagle.
“When brothers and sisters fight over money. When relatives fight over a piece of property, and they say, ‘We are fighting for a principle!’ What type of principle is that, when a piece of land is more important than your brother or sister?” he said.
The cardinal urged the faithful to fight unfortunate circumstances that scar familial ties.
“Open your eyes. Listen to the cries of the wounded. See the wounds, and see the causes of those wounds,” he said.
Leading to alienation
Wounds make persons, families, and communities vulnerable to manipulation, bitterness, despair, exploitation, and even vulnerable to evil, to sin, Tagle noted.
“Some people fall into crime, criminality. They start thinking of evil deeds because of deep wounds. Interior division, the division within me; and the external division, conflicts – they all lead to alienation,” he added.
He emphasized the need for a loving presence within families as this effectively resolves the alienation felt by individuals who are suffering from pain and depression.
“You may have a big, big beautiful house, and still be homeless. For what is a home? A home is not measured by how many acres you have, on which the building called a house sits. No. A home is the gift of a loving presence,” Tagle said.
“That’s a home. Not a house but a home. A loving presence. The gift of a loving presence. Which leads us now to Jesus Christ, the ministry of Jesus,” he added. (Jennifer M. Orillaza / CBCP News)