TACLOBAN City, Oct. 16, 2015 – To dispel the images of Cupid’s bows and hearts aflutter, a priest reminds the faithful that marriage is a vocation more than anything else.
“We think marriage is just between husband and wife, we forget that it is primarily a calling and God is always part of marriage life,” said Fr. Wilson Chu, co-parish priest of the Sto. Niño Parish, adding, “We become vulnerable without the presence of God in our relationship.”
What marriage is…
The oeconomus of the Archdiocese of Palo explained there is a need to restore the dignity and essence of marriage, highlighting the three characteristics of marriage:
it demands genuine love
it is a vocation.
Like Chu, young seminary priest Fr. Martin Cobi, emphasized that marriage is permanent, exclusive, and open to life.
Alluding to Jesus’ words in the Holy Scriptures, “What God has put together, let no one separate,” Cobi believed this makes marriage a permanent union between man and woman.
This union between man and woman is an attribute of marriage’s being open to life or pro-creation, which is also why the Church opposes same sex marriage, abortion, and contraception.
“It is exclusive because the married couple should not look for another (partner) and should not fall in love with another,” Cobi stressed.
No marriage from the start
“Marriage is a gift from God thus has to be treasured, protected, and never be allowed to be taken away from you,” Chu explained.
He added: “Love becomes genuine when in spite of all the pains and sacrifices, the couple continues to love more, and always find fulfillment, happiness and inspiration in each other.”
Cobi described marriage as a relationship that is not all happiness but has challenges too, which the couple should “faithfully work out together” for their good and the children as well.
He clarified that though the Catholic Church allows married people to remarry only after their marriage has been declared by the Matrimonial Tribunal as void ab initio or meaning the marriage did not exist from the very beginning.
In case of Legal Separation, which results in the couple’s separation from bed and board, remarriage is not allowed. (Eileen Nazareno-Ballesteros / CBCP News)