TACLOBAN City, Oct. 7, 2015 – “Why is it the couple found themselves trapped in [the] mire of unfulfilled vows? Is it not the spouse [who’s] supposed to be the source of happiness and inspiration?”
These were the questions raised by Fr. Wilson Chu, co-parish priest of the Sto. Niño Parish and oeconomus of the Archdiocese of Palo, in his reflection on last Sunday’s Gospel.
He said the reason is that spouses still focus on themselves rather than on trying to be a source of fulfillment and inspiration to their husband or wife.
According to Chu, the deeper root is that married couples often take for granted their responsibility to nurture their relationship with God every day and fail to make Him the center of their life.
Chu lamented: “It is very disheartening to see a couple separate because they feel they are not meant for each other.”
“During their wedding ceremony, they are so excited and happy because it is their most awaited day, the tying of the knot with their [beloved],” he added.
“After few years, they do not want to see each other anymore to the extent of treating each other as mortal enemies, successively filing multiple cases [against each other] before the courts, thereby vexing one another,” he added.
Hundreds of cases are indeed filed in various Regional Trial Court salas in the country designated as Family Courts. These courts hear and decide cases for violations against the Anti-Violence Against Women and Children Law of 2004 (RA 9262).
Some of these cases are speedily terminated due to settlements between the wife or the legal guardian of the children as complainant and the erring spouse as defendant.
Some others end up in the husband’s incarceration during the pendency of the case or as a consequence of non-compliance of court orders such as keeping a certain distance from the complainants or failure to provide the agreed monthly support.
Chu jested, “At the start of their marriage, the husband would want to carry his bride forever because she is the love of his life, but several years later, he still wanted to carry her not because of love anymore, but because the priest told him to carry his cross.”
Chu asked, “Why is it that they become the source of pain and headaches of one another?” (Eileen Nazareno-Ballesteros / CBCP News)