QUEZON City, March 25, 2015—An official of the Philippine Church’s policy-making body has called on parents to instill in their children how sacred sex really is and why it should be done only after marriage.
In an interview over Church-run Radyo Veritas, Sr. Mary Anthony E. Basa, executive secretary of the Catholic Bishops’ Conference of the Philippines (CBCP)’s Episcopal Commission on Culture (ECC), expressed sadness that more and more Filipino couples are “living in” without the benefit of the sacrament of marriage.
“Many of today’s youth who are unfortunately misguided indulge in premarital sex. Also, those who cohabit justify what they do because it’s allegedly too expensive to get married nowadays,” she shared.
Basa, a member of the Pious Disciples of the Divine Master (PDDM), pointed out this is too shallow an excuse, but admitted there really is a need for re-evangelization given society’s deteriorating values regarding the family, which the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) refers to as the “domestic Church,” and other human relationships.
The religious further lamented the rapidly disappearing Filipino custom surrounding courtship and dating during which future couples have ample time and opportunity to get to know each other better and more deeply before they decide whether to enter the married life.
Besides the lack of parental guidance, Basa also blamed the abuse of cell phones, the internet, and other modern technological advances for the rise of Filipinos preferring to cohabit because these distract them from other more important life concerns, making them susceptible to negative influences.
In this regard, the sister stressed parents must guide their children, and see to it that they always have their families’ love and support for them.
Love of family
According to her, if young people feel loved, wanted, and cared for by their own families, there is no reason for them to look for other people to fill their emotional needs, with many of them having sex outside marriage in the process.
Temple of the Holy Spirit
Basa reiterated the Church teaching on sexuality: that the body is the temple of the Holy Spirit; as such, it is where God Himself dwells.
She explained sex is God’s gift to married couples, which allows them to participate in the transmission of new life.
CCC 2353 calls the carnal union between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman “fornication,” an act “gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the good of spouses and the generation and education of children.”
Framework of marriage
For its part, the Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, in its 1975 “Declaration on Certain Questions Concerning Sexual Ethics,” states that every genital act must be within the framework of marriage.
“However firm the intention of those who practice such premature sexual relations may be, the fact remains that these relations cannot insure, in sincerity and fidelity, the interpersonal relationship between a man and a woman, nor especially can they protect this relationship from whims and caprices,” it adds. (Raymond A. Sebastián/CBCP News)